Many of you may have seen a popular post on FaceBook entitled, “Suddenly We Slept in One World and Woke Up in Another”. It was shared on our neighborhood blog. The replies were a wake-up call, as well. Whether an educator, parent/caregiver or student, all are struggling with a variety of common issues due to extended school closure. I observe this with my colleagues, as well as family and friends; thus, the motivation for this post.
If you’re watching television, you’ve likely heard words of wisdom from a number of psychologists on how to deal with multigenerational households all day, every day, and how to best support children who need to continue their learning. Regarding the research on how children grow and develop academically, socially and emotionally, the research is clear. To be succinct, there are two critical points: First, when kids spend their daytime hours in safe, supportive environments where adults endeavor to develop and maintain caring, nurturing relationships, their behavior is more positive, and they are more engaged learners. This includes the school and the home. (https://www.turnaroundusa.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/Key-Findings-and-Implications-of-the-Science-of-Learning-Development.pdf)
“Because our neural tissues change in response to our environment, our experiences, and our relationships, a young child who faces persistent adversity at home, for example, will frequently retreat into “fight or flight” mode to protect themselves from violence or abuse. Over time, the brain’s circuitry rewires, favoring aggressive or anxious tendencies at the cost of cognition, reasoning, and memory.” (https://www.edutopia.org/article/bringing-science-learning-classrooms) Likewise, we know that when schools are safe, supportive places, schools and teachers can serve as a protective buffer against the negative effects of stress and override persistent negative experiences in the home, making
caring, long-lasting relationships between adults and children in schools vital.
So what? This means it is important schools check in on students’ well-being, in addition to their academic needs during this extended closure period. For families, it means in dealing with the frustration of being sheltered in and trying to teach and learn, you must find strength and inspiration in something in order to stay emotionally healthy. Personally, I find inspiration in mediation, prayer, music, reading and walking. We’re not all alike, so think about where you find inspiration, or as Dr. Daniel Amen says, “where you stay safe in a scary world.” The link to his article below offers excellent advice and seven practical steps to retrain your brain to fight anxiety, negativity and panic: https://www.amenclinics.com/blog/yes-you-can-feel-safe-in-a-scary-world/
We cannot allow our circumstance to negatively affect those who most matter to us.
Second, psychologists agree kids need a routine. When an effective routine is in place, kids and adults alike are less apt to experience chaos; thus, the consequence is less frustration. Stop and think about how much frustration and stress in your life is created by poor organizational habits and the lack of routines. Our minds don’t function well, and we lose our ability to focus when the chaos around us is too distracting. Taking time to get organized and establish a routine lifts a heavy burden!
Below are some ideas and suggestions to think about when organizing your day for at-home learning.
Ideas for Organizing Routines and Supporting Students at Home
§ Get up, bathe and get dressed. Yes, this means do not stay in your pajamas all day!
§ Identify and share with your child the non-negotiable items that must be done for the day or the week.
§ Create a daily schedule.
§ Keep tasks short and easy to accomplish.
§ Break the day into 20 minute tasks. For younger children, 10 minutes is developmentally appropriate.
§ Do the “heavy” stuff in the morning.
§ Set daily goals with positive consequences.
§ Set a target to accomplish 3-5 positive things a day.
§ Start the day with GO Moments (Gratitude/Optimism)
o Reflect on: What is something you are grateful for?
o Reflect on: What am I looking forward to?
§ Beyond the assignments given by the school, have your child focus and practice critical social skills and practical living skills, such as specific manners, writing letters, cooking, exercising, music, arts activities, etc.
§ Set a time to read for enjoyment!
§ Create a journal or a learning log.
§ Know what the most important “thing” (idea, information, concept, problem solving) students are to learn for the day, and at the end of the day, reflect to make certain they understand it!
§ Have a family member be a guest teacher via technology, or in person if safe and following social distance guidelines.
§ Take breaks for a snack, stretching, perhaps a walk, etc.
§ Remember after lunch our brains tend to take a nap, so plan for something interesting, active and engaging.
§ End the day with reflection on, “What did we do well?”
§ Limit social media and video gaming time.
§ A tip from Mary Anne: Don’t watch coronavirus 24-7!
We acknowledge as schools and families we have shared goals. Presuming positive intent, we assume each is doing their best in this “new normal”. So how do we design a plan that helps us meet as many of those goals as possible. Communication is key!
Extended Distance Learning: Critical Questions for Families and Schools
(If you are a parent or caregiver, these are questions you need answered by staff at your school. If you are an educator, these are questions you want to make certain you have answered through clear communication via technology when possible, or through phone communication when technology is not available.)
§ What if my child does not have a tablet, laptop or other technology device?
§ Has the school surveyed to discover which students have a tablet, laptop or other technology device?
§ Has the school surveyed to discover which students have internet?
§ What if we don’t have Wi-Fi at home?
§ If we don’t have Wi-Fi, has the school invested in purchasing hotspots?
§ Will teachers check in with students?
§ How often can parents and caregivers expect follow-up communication from the school regarding instruction? …regarding basic needs?
§ How is classroom instruction presented? Paper Packets? Email? Online?
§ Is my child uploading video or accessing online teaching?
§ If online, where does my child go to locate assignments? Websites? Weblinks? Google Classroom? Zoom?
§ If students are learning online, where can I find online tutorials for students and parents/caregivers?
§ If in middle and high school, and regular classes are being taught online, have students and families received a calendar and specific schedule for learning each day?
§ Has the school presented a timeline with targets and deadlines for assignments?
§ How will learning and student products (assignments) be graded during this time?
§ If my child receives support services (Special Education, English Language Learner services, speech therapy and/or counseling services), will these continue during distance learning?
§ Do I have contact information for the following:
o Attendance and General Inquiries
o Technology Issues
o Mentoring (What if my child needs help? Who is responsible for mentoring and how can I contact him/her?)
o Meals
§ Who can I contact/call for each of the above?
§ What time of the day is someone available for my questions? Who?
Knowledge is power. Parents and caregivers, you need to be advocates for your children when they have problems and concerns, rather than struggling in isolation. In schools where I observe distance learning being implemented most successfully, all school personnel: teachers, administrators, paraprofessionals, certified staff contribute to making the above a reality for families. Let’s make “We’re all in this together” more than a cliché.